one knows what precipitated certain sensations and feelings.

but it doesnt make the emotions any less intense nor eradicate them altogether, one simply knows how best to deal with them.

observing the relationship between child and parent has been immensely heartbreaking.

maybe its a more common phenomenon than previously assumed.

maybe i'm just biased by being drawn to such cases.

but the ones that do exist display such a valley of separation between parent and child.

the most common response i get from children in early childhood is that daddy and mummy have no time.

for the older ones, its that daddy and mummy dont understand.

to all the parents out there, its NOT okay to think that a rift between you and your children is normal.

neither is it okay to believe that they'll manage just fine on their own with minimal supervision and attention.

if you dont understand your child, it means you're not trying hard enough.

if you think you do understand your child, then check with reality by asking your child directly: do you think daddy/mummy loves/understands you?

you might be in for a surprise.

children arent meant to be a generation gap away.

they are meant to be held close physically, emotionally and spiritually and made to feel that even if the whole world caves in on them, you are there to lift them up again.

be whole before you love another.